Love marriage..it's complicated

       Love..the word  sounds sweet..it feels more sweeter when you experience it.But when you want that love to lead to marriage you have to face some bitterness too.We watch romantic movies,read romantic novels .But when it comes to real life love is still a taboo in India.If a person loves someone it's still considered a mistake.Well when it comes to a girl people even judge her character that she has a boyfriend.Why are love marriages so complicated in India?To marry the person we love,we have to face hell lot problems.Many couples are breaking up just because they couldn't take those troubles anymore or they lack the courage even to discuss about their love with their parents.

        In our country marriages have always been business deals rather than a choice of two people.Well I am talking about the arranged marriages.Sorry some may not agree..but this is what made me to say this.We still have dowry culture.So if the boy is earning high salary he expects more dowry.If the girl is not beautiful then she has to gives more dowry to compensate.Even if there is no dowry involved in marriage things like financial backgrounds their status in society are considered.Marriages use to happen just to keep up the status between families and castes.Many kings use to get their daughters married to their enemies to protect their kingdoms.Well this might bring peace.But what about his daughter.Is she not considered a human..she was just treated as an object of exchange for a deal.This case involves the man who marries the woman too.But if he doesn't like this woman he could marry an other woman.Where as in the case of that woman she can't.

        There are many cases where honor killings are done by parents just to keep up their pride.Its shameful to have such people in society.Emotional blackmails by parents even happen Amd some times they commit suicides.All they need to remember is this society may talk about it for few weeks or may be few months.Later it gets a new topic.So it is us who has to loose something if we take a wrong decision.Marriage is all about two persons living together happily.So it's something related to two hearts mingling.Except for those hearts our Indian marriages deals with the rest..like how much gold do we get,the dowry,status in society,how fair and handsome the kids may look.In India marriage is not about two persons,it's about two families living happily.When more persons involve usually things gets complicated.

      Love marriages are complicated in India because we have a caste system.So intercaste marriages are a big deal.Well many people don't know how castes formed.All they know is just by getting their children married in same caste makes them to continue to belong to same caste.Few people are atleast agreeing for intercaste marriages.But the higher caste people always have issues to get their  children married  to lowercastes.If parents doesn't like your love they have hundreds of reasons to disagree,like the guy is financially not settled,family background is not good,the guy is younger than the girl.Getting an intercaste marriage itself is a big deal and if it's an inter religious marriage you are in deep shit.But one thing as I said marriage is a business deal for us.All these castes religions everything comes only for poor and middle class people. When money comes in  the middle people they  forget all these things.If you are damn rich then your caste doesn't matter for parents..your religion even doesn't matters.If you don't agree well lemme ask you a question.If Ambani comes and asks you parents to marry his son or daughter to you,does your parents disagree?Well if the they disagree..then forget about your love with anyone in this world ..because they are not going to agree to anyone.

     What ever the situation is no one can stop people from loving.But whose side should we take.What if we have choice only to choose one side.Be it the parents side or the lovers side.Well we should respect our parents for all the love that they has shown for us.But the problem is in this case their love towards us is a love towards an object..consider a robot.Because only robots are expected to do as we command.It doesn't has a heart so therefore no problem.But we are humans.How can we live with someone whom we don't love.Also parents may live for few years.But where as the person we marry will be with us for the rest of life.Ultimately it's a choice to breakup or tie up.

Imagine a world without religion

    Religion is something which man has created to keep a sanctity in human life.But over years religion has become the main reason for many human destructions.It created differences between people.It created an inequal place for women in the society.

     What do you think if an aethist world exists.What if there is no religion and no castes.How peaceful our society remains then.I know most of you may say that if there is no religion people may do more sins.Their will be no ethics remained in the society.But when the main idea of sanctity of religion is lost what is the use of it.A man does uncountable number of mistakes and goes to God,offer him money to pardon his crimes.A man does mistakes takes a holy Dip and again continues to do the same.

     Do we really need a God to fear for inorder to avoid mistakes.Man doesn't fear for a hell after death which he has never seen.But he would fear for a hell that exists on Earth the prison and its punishments.So only strong laws and a society of justice are enough  to create fear inorder to avoid mistakes.The most fearful act of present days terrorism could be avoided if people are aethists.All the robberies and cheatings that are being done in the name of religion could be avoided.The local fights due to caste differences could be avoided.People can be free to choose their loved ones rather than marrying some unknown person blindly.There are many number of bad things that may not exist if people become aethists.  

     I don't say that there is no God at all...there is God and you may name him as you like give a shape as you wish.Just respect him for his creation.All you need is to be a good person in heart and lead a life with humanity.I don't think a religion is needed to create such person.All you need is common sense to analyse what is good and what is bad.After all these religions has taken away that common sense from us.

      

Prematho...Amma ki..(To mom..with love)

Amma..its the most sweetest and pleasant word a man can spell and hear.The sound may vary from language to language but the sweetness and pleasantness doesn't vary.A child can always sense his mother's touch..its the most soothing touch a human can feel.

# loving,caring,protecting..(Amma odilo..in telugu)

    To me my mother is the most beautiful woman in this world.How ever old she gets she is the most beautiful woman to me.It is because I see the internal beauty in her..the heart..which doesn't fade away with age.She is the most caring and loving person.When I am crawling she taught me how to walk.She sang me lullaby when I am sleeping.When I am trying to express myself she taught me how to speak.When I am hungry she fed me with her hands.(goru muddalu we call it in telugu).She taught me to read and write.She is no different than any other mother.But she is always special to me because she is my mother.

     I admire her for being a mother.I admire her for making me a good human.I love you Amma.

      

Pk.the movie..an awakening..

    Recently there has been a controversy regarding the movie Pk.Many got offended by that movie ,especially Hindus.I am a Hindu and I personally felt that it's an awakening call for all Hindus.All the scenes that were shown in the movie regarding the exploitation of religion in the name of God were true.A simple question regarding the size of idols that Amir Khan asks,made me to think.Its actually happening.Simple example is during Ganesh chaturthi people compete to put big idols. It should be bigger than the idol in the next colony.Does having a bigger idol makes god happier?I wonder if people really has bhakthi. Its Ganesh chaturthi  and people put movie songs in loud speakers and dance in the name of God.They do collect funds(ganesh chanda) to do all that.It has become a dadagiri. People actually force you to give funds in some cities. Are they really devotees?No.They are rowdies trying to steal your money in the name of God.

    What is a religion? It's a system created by man for a better way of life. The base for this religion is our creator.. The God, call him what ever you want. One thing you need to remember is,god might have created us but religion is created by man.Every rule is created by man.He is the one who suppressed women in the name of religion, he is the one who is doing terrorism in the name of God.

     No system is perfect.Things should get updated with time.Today something you might feel correct might be a mistake tomorrow and vice versa.

    I work in a maritime industry. They Design things and enforce regulations regarding safety.Still accidents happen. They do research on those accidents and make new changes accordingly. Such should be a religion because it's a system and should get updated and shouldn't get blinded in the name of God.According to  Nava Graham stotra..the sun and moon are considered as planets. It has been proved scientifically false. Its not a mistake if we change the stotra and include any new planets. We should not forget that all the Vedas of holy scriptures were written by humans and no one is perfect.We should not forget that this perfect religion you think had a lot of evils that were created by man.A women dying after her husband dies "sati sahagamanam",a young girl getting married to very old guy, dowry,untouchability were considered today a Sin.Why because you considered those evils were faults of society.Actually if you realise those evils were faults in a religion.. again created by man. The same way if you realise an exploitation of human fear by another man in the name of God as a fault in society rather than considering it as fault in religion.Then it will be easy for us to update our religion.

    

 Coming to the movie Pk there are a lot of incidents covered how people are making money taking advantage of human fears in the name of God.A few more were covered in the movie "oh my god".But there are many.We have seen many fake Babas stealing money.If he is accepting or expecting some money please don't go to him.A real baba gives everything.He doesn't need anything from you. Instead there are still people who support fake babas like nityananda. You can understand from this how foolish people are when it comes to religion. Its time to wake up. Think understand and take your decision. No religion is perfect.Accept what ever you feel good from all religions and omit what ever you feel might be bad. 

                                                Strive for a better society.

Beauty of bright silence

    We were living in an era where we were surrounded by lights all the time.Times had changed in such a way that artificiality makes us forget completely about what is natural.Some how I can say I was blessed to be on ship.

     That day I was tired after my work and wanted to relax.I walked out to the deck to get some fresh air.It was very calm outside.I could hear only the sound of the waves of the ocean that too which were caused by my ship.When I gazed into the sky for a while I was stunned by the beauty of the sky.My whole life I might had gazed into the sky many times.But the artificial light of our cities makes the most beautiful sky almost invisible.I had never seen such a bright sky in my life with plenty of stars and planets.Adding to the beauty my friend bought his tablet where there was an application to find out what star or planet or constellation your looking at.

For a while by seeing that blue sky filled with shining stars and planets in that twilight it made me felt like that was life.It made me remained of my childhood where in my village when there was a powercut at night I use to come out and gaze into the bright sky breathing fresh air listening to some melodious songs in my walkman and my mom feeding food to me and my brother.

      It might be difficult for us to leave the artificial life.But we should not forget whats natural out their waiting for us and man cannot create a beauty more than that.

      (The application that was used in the blog is starwalk)

What about the common man

Its been so long since I have updated my blog.I only blog only when something moves me.As I am done with my engineering I'm staying at home making myself busy engrossing in some works.On the other side my state Andhra Pradesh is in a complex state which made me to write this blog.
       Until last year the capital of Andhra Pradesh Hyderabad suffered with the effect of Telangana movement.Almost the quarter part of the year was filled with strikes and agitations.Universities and schools hardly ran.I felt that I'm blessed for not studying in Andhra.Now its time that rest of telangana ie; now being called "Seema Andhra" is facing this situation where people are fighting for "SAMIKYANDHRA"(United Andhra) movement.The situation is more worse than what hyderabad had faced.Except for hospitals,emergency services and petrol bunks no other services are working.This is a movement which rose voluntarily from people after governments desperate failure of ruling where as the Telangana movement was mostly a political one.But one thing everyone is forgetting is all these movements are effecting common mans life.Many people depend on banks for their financial needs which has become a huge problem now.Business people are the most likely ones to face huge losses due to bandhs.Their monthly incomes levels reduced drastically.The grocery stores..where people can hardly find anything to buy due to bandh.No transportation of vegetables is taking place.Even if they bring into the market they cannot store such huge amounts for days resulting in spoilage of food.What about the life of a person who can run his family only if he earns that day?What about the students education?No bus transportation.Power shortage due to power production workers strike.
     All these agitations done by people for the people are effecting people.It should not hit the common mans stomach.The movement should run in such a way that it should hit the politicians stomach after all they are the the one who brought this situation to us by selling the state into someones hands....

H@PPY D@YS

I still remember the first day in Amet standing alone without knowing anyone.Like wise i remember the last day, but with many friends and their memories for the rest of my life.
   Its the last day in college.Everyones eyes filled with tears.The teasing of friends,shouting of professors,same tasteless college food,the bed bugs finally has come to an end.Among them there are many things that i hate.Though i hate them,i still love them..dont know what kind of feeling is this!Imagining my future without them makes me feel that my future is incomplete.All i need to realise that is a phase-the H@PPY D@YS in my life came to an end and another phase is gonna start.

miss u guys..